Self-Talk That Sabotages… #3 Growth

“If I miss a shot, so what? I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career, I’ve lost more than 300 games, 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over in my life, and that’s why I succeed.”(Michael Jordan). Great athletes spend many frustrating and lonely hours in the gym or on the field failing and looking foolish just to develop a single new skill. The difference between an Expert and an Ex-Out is that Experts tell themselves that it takes many attempts to overcome the failure that naturally accompanies growth in any area of life.

Are you telling yourself you can try something new once and when it fails, it is OK to give up? Seriously, how many times have you ever tried something once and it worked the first time – or second or even the third time? You must try new things in order to get new results… unless of course you desire to stay exactly where you are now. So try that new skill, advice, method, etc. several times before you decide it isn’t working and give up. Select an area where you’d like to grow, decide which skill to master first. Then stick to your guns by keeping your commitment and making your actions consistent with your goal. If you miss the mark and look goofy for a time, so what? Don’t forget, every Expert in this area had to overcome this exact obstacle too… so you’re on your way!

If you or someone you know is giving up too easily in areas where there is a true desire to grow, consider that you might be missing this key thought …

To reach any goal, get your heart to the goal first.
I love the story of an elderly Christian lady who was crippled with arthritis and hobbled to church services on crutches. Each Sunday it was a great ordeal that required a considerable amount of pain, hard work, frustration, and awkward embarrassment. A friend of hers observed her regular and faithful attendance, “How do you manage to be at every service?” Her answer was, “My heart gets there first, and my old legs just follow after.”

Question: What have you learned that helps you reach your goals?


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